Marriage Restoration
Anything is possible with God and a willing heart!
Let us start by saying marriage restoration will not be possible unless both parties are equally willing to dig in deep and do what it takes to change, grow, and mature. If you happen to be an unfortuanate situation where your spouse is not willing to do their part, then let us say to you with a megaphone, “You are not a failure!!!!” God has a good life for you after you are healed and restored from what separation and divorce may cause.
Much like many unhealthy marriages, our first marriages failed and ended in divorce. However, through mistakes, trial and error, and ultimately failure, we can tell you what did work.
Foundationally speaking, success goes back to guarding your heart and renewing your mind. That’s not all that’s required but when you have 2 people willing to do these two things, you are well on your way to a happy restoration and a healthy marriage.
So what are the things that we feel are neccessary for restoration to be possible? First, as we said earlier, is for both parties to be willing to dig in deep to find and make the changes within themselves that it will take to make the marriage healthy.
Second, would be counseling or some other competent, Godly, trusted, and neutral third-party accountability that helps you uncover and examine those changes that each of you need to make. Third, would be making certain that you are not doing the first two at a merely surface level. This is why we say that the foundation to all of this is in guarding your heart and renewing your mind. You may feel like you are digging deep, making some real changes, and doing the counseling work, but you just can’t seem to get past the past. Until you are both willing to let God come into your hearts to help free you from any bitterness, unforgiveness and downright contempt that you may be holding, the changes that you are making will never last. And, unless you are both willing to renew your minds to allow God’s truth about who you are and about what He expects of you to guide your behaviors, you may have a tendency to let your spouse’s behaviors have a negative affect on your own. Make sure that you are willing to do the right thing no matter what they may be doing at the time. If you are both focused on working towards what God would want you to be as a spouse, you are seldom going to go wrong.
Let’s hear what others have to say as they share their testimony on marriage restoration and go beyond where we are in marriage.
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